Have I told you lately…..

….how much I Love him?

My dear husband has turned out to be more then I could even hope or imagine.  Now, I know we are still newlyweds and thus you could conclude that we haven’t really had the test of time to validate the greatness of what we have.  I’ll give you a little there, but being a newlywed with a pre-teen and a teenager in the home has to account for something!  I don’t write this to brag about the wonderfulness of my husband but today I want to write to all those lovely’s that are hoping to find their own Mr. Wonderful someday.

I’ve learned a lot from the choice I made at 24 years of age and the subsequent years of not so goodness.  I learned that broken people attract broken people.  I learned that Mr. Good-Enough will never be Mr. Wonderful.  I learned that you can’t compromise on core values and that although compromise is ‘part’ of marriage it shouldn’t be a part of the foundation of your marriage.  If you compromise who you are or what you were made to be in order to be with someone, it will always fail.

Over the next couple of days I’m going to give you 5 steps to uncover if the man you are dating, or the one you might date, is the man you should marry.  I don’t know if it’s a fool proof plan or not but I know it’s what I did and it’s what worked for me over the last 2 years.  I think I’m writing to ALL women, with or without children.  I’m fairly confident that these 5 steps will direct you in your search for Mr. Wonderful no matter what age or stage of life but, I KNOW 100%  that I’m writing to women who have children.  Single moms are just in a different category.  They have little people that depend on them and that have probably been hurt and that most definitely have to come first.  So, you have to do some things different but honestly I think that if you are really serious about this finding a husband thing.  Follow my lead.  Start with #1

 1) Spend a minimum of one year with a therapist, life coach, counselor. 

  • Deal with your baggage.  I don’t care how old you are, you have stuff you need to sort out and maturing you need to do.  I say one year but I spent 6 years with my wonderful counselor.  She started out as my ‘crisis counselor’, worked her way into being my therapist, counseled me a bit and then coached me in life.  When she began telling me more about her life then I was sharing about mine, she kicked me out and said I was done. I knew I was as whole as I could possibly be.  My hurts were healed, my hang- ups were un-hung-up and my life habits were healthy.

Yep that’s where it all begins…with you!  Get healthy and strong and confident.  Do it for your future husband, do it for your children, do it for your friends, do it to find the YOU God created you to be.   Once you’ve done that you are ready for #2.

a few of my favorite things

I was driving along today in the normal course of life and looked around me….oh the beauty.  It was a beautiful day in Central Oregon and it got me singing my own version of ‘Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens…”  It went something like this…

leaves

Blue sky in autumn and bright colored trees

yellow and orange and bright evergreens

white mountain tops and cool fall breeze

…these are a few of my favorite things!

 

Thinking about the things that bring you joy, makes you joyful and turns your perspective to that which matters most in life.  Finding the WONDER in the small things of life, in the mundane is what transforms life from normal to incredible. 

I think this is why I’m drawn to children.  I love their innocence and how everything is new and limitless and exciting to them.

We were watching the last middle school volleyball game this week and the bleachers were filled with little kids from the afterschool program.  The concession stands were open and many people had bags of popcorn but these little ones had no parent to provide them with the sacred quarter that would give them a bag, so they searched the stands for a quarter that may have been left behind. 

My dear husband took 3 quarters and began to strategically rain down magic into these little’s ones lives.  One quarter landed magically next to a little girl and spun to a stop next to her.  She was amazed at the miracle.  Another boy heard a drop behind him and screeched that he found a quarter.  The last little girl who had been searching each row tirelessly came upon the quarter that was placed on the floor just in front of us.  She knew she would find one if she looked hard enough, she had incredible faith and when she came across this shiny silver coin she was ecstatic. 

Sheer joy!

Favorite things….

Hugs from my husband and kisses from my kids

calls from my mommma and Tupperware with lids

warm sun on my face and my pups, piper and syd

Make a list today of your favorite things….add to it each day and discover the wonder of life and the joy of each day!  Expect the unexpected and live with purpose!

I also love warm blankets from the dryer, a warm blazing fire.  Candles aglow and a fresh lawn mowed.  Dad’s popcorn, with salt and butter.  oh and I love Jesus, unlike any other.

Be blessed…..

Uncommonly Beautiful

I saw this video today and it made me think of you. I too am wildly convinced that you are uncommonly beautiful!

This video came from Karen Walrond’s site…www.chookooloonks.com.  I actually don’t know anything about her except I like her thoughts here.  If you don’t want to take the time to watch the video or wish you had a list of these 10 ways to ensure everyone knows you are beautiful:

  1. remember there are differences by no flaws
  2. there is only one fashion rule; if it makes you feel awesome, wear it
  3. be willing to be vulnerable, so you can also fully experience joy
  4. control your own perspective: perspective is everything
  5. another word for sexy? confident
  6. breathe. deeply and everyday
  7. express yourself. often, kindly and without apology
  8. the adventure is the attempt, embrace possibility
  9. to remain youthful never stop looking for the wonderful
  10. and finally: create your own story never let others create it for you

YOU ARE DIFFERENT AND YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!